Since both of you hardly know much about each other, it could be a real challenge to keep the conversation alive and interesting.
Like everything else in life, preparation is important and should include a rehearsal of what you would likely be discussing with your partner during your first date.
It is helpful to realize that your fist date is not “an interview” session and try to avoid questions that will make your date’s answer be a simple yes or no.
As a primer, try to avoid asking questions or talking about common, boring, and predictable topics like school, work and family. If you run out of all other options, instead try and be a bit creative and original.
Relax, and make the conversation be more like you’re talking to any other friend of yours of the opposite sex.
However, should your date ask questions bordering about such, be creative all the same and put some spice in when answering them.
Keep your eyes open for current affairs and interesting trivia that involve topics that you’re conversant with and could make for a good conversation opener and upon which you could build more topics around easily.
There is also the dilemma of how much to tell your date about yourself the first time out and practically you should try not to reveal too much intimate details about your past or present, and also avoid discussing the details about your work. Keep the conversation light and focus more on topics of general mutual interest.
The following tips are a great starter to having a successful first date conversation:
Pay Attention and Focus on your Date
Avoid the temptation to go on talking about yourself and try to listen carefully to what your date is saying and show sincere interest. Show curiosity about knowing but letting the questions be light and being focused on them yet not too demanding.
Ask Good and Fun Questions
Getting the right answer in any conversation requires you asking the right questions to start with. So ask questions that do not pry into your date’s private life but that more general in nature and questions that they will be willing to talk about without a second thought. Check your feelings that know if the questions are appropriate, by questioning how you would feel answering them if you were the one being asked those questions.
Give Good and Sincere Compliments
A little flattery won’t do any harm on your first date but don’t be too generous with it or you run the risk of losing your credibility. Your compliments ought to be convincing, truthful and most importantly, let it be sincere.
Make Good Eye Contact and Be Confident
Making good eye contact while conversing with your date makes them believe that you are confident and not nervous and even makes you look trustworthy. However, avoid staring too hard at your date as this might make them uncomfortable and intimidated.
Finally, the temptation to impress your date on the first date might make you want to take the risk of “not being yourself” but try to avoid any form of lies, cheating, general dishonesty and manipulation.
They might assist you in getting another date with your potential partner, but down the road as they come to know the real you, the truth might then threaten the relationship. Dating requires open and honest communication – why act and think of dialogues that are not your own.
Endeavor to go above and beyond your usual table talk and be unique. Standout and be interesting while being true to yourself from the very first date.
