Apparently, cheating is no longer a male related issue as it is growing exponentially among females. The stigma once associated with women cheating on their spouses has gradually diminished. But what exactly are the reasons why women cheat on their spouses?
Nowadays, most cheating by women hardly raise an eyebrow. While there might be an increase in the amount of infidelity among women, according to available statistics, men are still more culpable in this notorious act.
Men often regard women as being naive. What they fail to realize is that women may not always be that nice. This is especially true when hurt or not treated properly.
A woman might do the impossible, often unbelievable, and unthinkable things if scorned by her spouse. A woman who does these because of something her spouse did or failed to do, might do it without a single regret.
Generally, men may react quickly to offences committed by their spouse. On the other hand, it could take most women days, weeks, months, or even years to react to an offense.
Most ladies often take their time to get back at their spouse to even a score. And this applies very much to cases of cheating.
Also, while most men cheat for more physical reasons, women on their part cheat mostly for emotional reasons. This often includes loneliness, revenge, boredom, low self-esteem etc., rather than lust.
There are actually a multitude of reasons why women cheat. However, below and in no particular order, are some of the major reported reasons why women cheat on their spouses.
1. Bored in the Relationship
A woman is naturally romantic and always want to be at the center of attention of her spouse’s world.
She craves romantic dinners, surprise getaways, and anything that will bring a spark of romance to enliven her heart. She longs for the things that will make her feel special.
These and more are the things a man must never forget doing for his woman. They are important activities to continue doing if he really wants her to remain faithful to him.
This is important because when the routines of her daily chores start to take a toll on her, she may become bored in a relationship.
Such boredom makes it hard to create romance and experience new things – things she longs for. Even when in a relationship, a woman still wants to be pursued and feel attractive.
Thus, it might be tempting for a woman to go in search of excitement outside her current relationship if it has become a bore.
2. Not Enough Sex and Bedroom Boredom
Naturally, men are the ones who want more sex. However, the pressure from work, mortgage, and other responsibilities can affect his sexual availability.
Such pressure can make him reduce the amount of sex in the relationship or somewhat push it to the background.
Also, predictability and familiarity often overtake the quality and frequency of sex in most relationships.
A lot of women cheat as a result of being bored with the monotony of sex in their current relationship.
Also, lack of sexual activity can make a woman feel unattractive and think her partner doesn’t find her desirable.
Thus, they seek to bring the excitement back into their life through engaging in an extramarital affair and is one strong reason why women cheat.
Any man who doesn’t want his woman to cheat on him must never let life and its responsibilities get in the way of their sex life. He must also not push stuffs like kissing and cuddling aside.
He needs to make every effort to make sex the best fun it can be. Always using the same position, same timing, and setting can make sex become a drag. Variety, they say, is the spice of life.
Both partners need to communicate effectively and together try to avoid routine by reducing any repetitive sexual patterns.
Also, a man should never forget that his woman has both sexual and emotional needs. These must be satisfied in order for her to remain happy and contented in a relationship.
A man should learn to dutifully give his woman the undivided attention she needs while fulfilling both of these needs. Failure to do so means he risks inadvertently inviting a stranger to help him out.
3. Lack of Self-Esteem
Another reason why women cheat is because of having low self-esteem. A woman with low self-esteem and who is not getting adequate amount of attention and validation from her partner, is highly likely to cheat on her man.
This is the case when the attention and validation she seeks cannot be created and sustained in her current relationship.
Thus, she’ll more often than not want to compensate for what she feels she’s missing in her current relationship.
Simple flattery from a strange male admirer can make such a woman suddenly feel better about herself. Just knowing that someone has taken an interest in her can make her suddenly feel sexier, more beautiful, and loved.
The insecurity from low self-esteem often leads women to seek affirmation of their value and desirability outside their current relationship. One of the ways women easily go about it is by engaging in extramarital affairs.
4. As Payback for Past Wrong/Cheating
As the saying goes “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”. It is obviously no longer “a man’s world” where they expect to eat their cake and have it.
The modern woman is no longer willing to lay back and accept that their spouse can cheat on them.
A woman might feel scorned, betrayed, or wounded by her spouse who might be cheating on her. She might even cheat on him because of something else for which she has not forgiven him yet.
Her cheating on him might therefore be her way of avenging and repaying the wrong done her by her spouse. It’s her way to get her man to feel the hurt, anger, and jealousy she went through earlier.
Notwithstanding, every woman handles cheating differently. If she has not forgiven her spouse, she might take him back in order to even the score the later. On the other hand, she might not want to have anything to do with him.
5. Finds No Fulfillment in the Relationship
Generally, women require commitment from their spouses in some sort of way. If they have been in a long-term relationship and nothing seems to be coming out of it, then trouble might be brewing in the relationship.
No matter what women revolution might have brought along with it, every woman from the depth of her heart still yearns for a place to call home. Especially, a house, a marriage, some kind of commitment, and hopefully to start and have a family.
Thus, this is probably the most important reason why women cheat on their partners – being unfulfilled or dissatisfied. Dissatisfaction in her current relationship can trigger a woman to seek satisfaction elsewhere.
Financial problems, family troubles, internal and external tensions, or even boredom at home, make excitement on the outside a great distraction. A temptation that may be too hard to pass up.
If her man is not giving her what she wants or needs in the relationship, a woman might make the relationship miserable for her spouse.
Cheating on him could ultimately be a very tempting proposition. She might use the act of cheating as a means to end their current relationship.
6. Having Midlife Crisis
Women go through a lot of experiences like drastic weight loss or gain, new job, new friends, and a pre-midlife crisis.
This is similar to the male midlife crisis, only a lot worse with an important difference. It’s this difference that actually makes women more likely to cheat than men during such periods.
During this period, the communication lines between her and her spouse need to be very open. If not, then there’s a very high tendency to want to talk to someone else about the troubling issues.
This might provide a tempting scenario that can lead to cheating where a male counterpart with a listening ear is available.
7. Lack of Intimacy
There is nothing women crave more like intimacy in a relationship. This is whether it is physical or emotional, it is one of those need every woman wants to see met.
This include little stuffs like hugging, kissing, touching, and cuddling with lots of open communication. These are the sort of things that make women more committed to a relationship.
Though the sex is also very important, these other emotional components help to greatly increase the intimacy between her and her man.
Every woman desires her man to listen to her, hear what she has to say, and understand her. Without these interactions, she feels alienated and lonely.
If her man cannot meet these needs, it creates a situation where she’s tempted to relieve the pain somewhere else.
This is something every man should understand. In fact, more than anything else, women get a greater sense of fulfilment in a relationship from the emotional connection.
8. Feeling Neglected and Unappreciated
A man should never forget to do those little things that counts for his woman every now and then. These little gestures add up to show her how much her efforts are appreciated.
Women’s feelings and emotions run deeper than often thought. As a result, they become very sensitive when unappreciated and neglected.
One of the most important things in a woman’s life that you should avoid forgetting are her special days.
These include days like her birthday, an anniversary, or other special days that she might naturally look up to you doing something special for her.
9. Exit Strategy
A lot of men are afraid of breaking up a relationship. Instead, they prefer to cheat as an excuse to break away from the relationship. Women also have this tendency.
Many women cheat because they want to escape their relationships but don’t know how to go about it. Thus, when some women feel their needs aren’t being met in a relationship, they would rather cheat than breaking up.
They do this because many of them find it very hard dealing with a broken relationship. They consider cheating a much easier way of quitting a relationship.
Thus, cheating for some women is simply a way of sabotaging an unhappy or dissatisfying relationship.
10. Loneliness
When a woman is lonely or has feelings of isolation and disengagement in her current relationship, it can easily create an environment for her to cheat.
A woman feels lonely when she cannot connect emotionally with her spouse for various reasons.
This might be as a result of her partner working long hours or always going on business trips. Yet, there are spouses who might be present in the flesh but emotionally unavailable.
Such feelings of loneliness can create a huge void in her life which she might be tempted to fill with someone else.
Being emotional beings, women are far more likely to have an affair because of loneliness. And sometimes, a shoulder to lean on becomes a bed to sleep on.
The only thing that can relieve the pain of loneliness is connection. Thus, it is vital that a man is both mentally and emotionally available for his spouse.
It is also important that a man learns how to listen to and positively communicate with his spouse as much as possible.
11. Unmet Idealistic Expectations
While everyone has certain expectations when getting into a relationship, the reality is that a spouse can never fill the needs of another completely.
Yet, a lot of women put too much expectations on “love fixes everything.” They believe that once spouses love each other, things will flow smoothly and all their needs will be met.
But the reality is that marriage is hard work – even when you truly love each other.
Then again, there are those women who fantasize beyond the thresholds of realism. They expect their husbands to be great lovers, parents, providers, and even their best friend.
What man is there that will not fall short of such expectations?
Thus, when such a woman’s need for sexual satisfaction, emotional support, and time together cannot be met, it can easily create disappointment. Also, it can divide the relationship and provide the perfect impetus for her to cheat.
It’s completely unfair of any woman to expect her man to do everything for her. Nonetheless, a man should learn how to communicate effectively and make compromises with his spouse whenever necessary.
12. Opportunity
One major reason for women cheating is simply situational. A lot of spousal cheating is not premeditated but are just a result of an unexpected opportunity.
While most interactions start innocently, things just sort of happens. Yet, there are often moments that could have made or broken the potential affair.
Everyone makes mistake and instances such as being drunk and “not thinking clearly” can happen to any of us. The impulsiveness of the moment can often make such opportunities difficult to pass up.
13. Because They Can
Modernity and the change in current women status is also another important reason why women cheat. Women now have increased opportunities to stray compared to earlier decades
Today, you have a lot of women who like their male counterparts go on business trips and who are involved in a lot of social events.
A lot of these activities exposes her to various temptations of infidelity and thus, an increased tendency to succumb.
In Conclusion…
To avoid your spouse being unfaithful to you, the most important thing you can do either as a man or a woman is to keep the lines of communication widely open.
Regularly sit down and have an honest and open conversation with your spouse. Discuss what your emotional, financial, social, and certainly sexual needs are with your partner.
Also, in a positively engaging manner, take time to talk about how both of you can work them out.
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